Meaningful Consent: The Only Good Sex
This workshop will explore the issue of consent in sexual situations, with an emphasis on raising awareness of the issues that complicate the answer beyond yes/no. Factors such as power differentials, social expectations, and coercive hierarchy all play parts in misunderstandings of what makes consent meaningful, and exactly how important it is. Learn how to respectfully ask for what you want, how to say No, and how to incorporate these techniques into your amorous repertoire while still keeping things sexy. Special information as well for dudes on how to avoid being That Creepy Guy.
details
- when: saturday, april 18th, 2009, from 12:25 pm - 1:55 pm
- to attend: Please see the info page for more information on attending any of the workshops at the 2009 Boston Skillshare.
- facilitated by: Amos
lesson plan
1. Why meaningful consent is important
2. Exploring definitions of consent and searching for meaning: We want to know what consent even means, anyway, and when we need it. Any ideas?
3. An introduction to variable power differences: historical, artificial, and real.
4. Situations where consent is impossible
5. What to do when you hear "no"
6. Activity: practice saying No.
7. Activity: respectfully ask for what you want
8. Staying consensual: avoiding the "bait & switch"
9. Circumstances where you need to double-check (i.e., as a partner of a survivor of abuse; when dealing with inherent power imbalances)
10. Don't Be A Creepy Guy: Tips for men who don't want to be taken as threatening. We will cover: concepts of entitlement and privilege, sexual harassment, body language, and red flag behaviors that will absolutely mark you as a Creepy Guy.
facilitator experience
Researched advocate of the right of every human being to make meaningful choices and be free from sexual abuse of power.
intended audience
Anyone who currently has or wants to have a romantic and/or sexual relationship. Hetero, queer, whoever